I think I might just have butterflies for the rest of my life. June 8th, 2019 was absolutely perfect and everything I could have ever hoped for. My best friend got down on one knee in the middle of a real life fairytale he created just for me – and now, I get to spend the rest of my life with him.
The thought Ilir put into such an incredible proposal takes my breath away. I have had so many questions about what really happened that perfect Saturday afternoon, and today, I’m sharing it all!
If you’re new here, there are some things you need to know about me first. I am fiercely loyal, I love with all my heart, but sometimes that passion comes with a stubborn head, some high expectations, and a bit too much perfectionism. On the enneagram test I am a pretty solid three and if I had to use one word to sum up where all my worries come from, its pressure. I don’t take time to breathe nearly enough and overanalyze things more than any normal person should. I like to create timelines and plans and I am certainly not the least bit spontaneous. I know my expectations are high, but somehow Ilir surpasses them.
There are also some things you should know about Ilir. (But I don’t know how much of this I really even need to say, because by the time you get to the end, I think this all will be pretty clear.) He is calming and kind, mature and thoughtful, spontaneous and adventurous and balances my craziness so well. Above all else, Ilir is compassionate and the kind of person who finds joy in seeing others happy and I admire that more than I can say.
Lastly, I guess you should probably know a little bit about us, too! I wrote a whole blog post about how our love story started, but in short, we have been dating for almost seven years now, and have also tackled seven years of distance. From train rides to flights, from two hours away to eleven hours away, we certainly have not taken an easy route, but it goes to show you the passion we have for both growing as individuals and strengthening our relationship at the same time, even from far away. It’s been quite the wild ride, and it still isn’t over, but to have a beautiful ring on my finger as a little reminder that we can do this is certainly something special.
Now to the story. Ilir so sweetly follows bloggers, creatives and photographers I love because he knows how interested I am in creating beautiful things, and how much I admire others who do this so well. The love he has for seeing passion in other peoples’ eyes is one of my favorite parts abut him. He will often send posts with location inspiration or blog posts ideas, and one day, he sent me an Instagram story from one of my favorite photographers, Alicia, also known as Aesthetiica in the blogging world. I have been in love with her work for such a long time and admire her creativity tremendously! Alicia posted a casting call and was looking for couples to shoot. What a DREAM. Minutes after Ilir sent it to me, I was in Alicia’s inbox:
I truly thought there was no way she would pick us, knowing how many responses I was sure she would get. When she said she was interested in shooting with us, I was ecstatic! Little did I know, this was all a set up.
After work, I went out and bought a new outfit, came home and did my nails (thank goodness), threw some self tanner on, did a face mask, and got ready for an exciting shoot the next day. Of course, every girl prays they have their nails done and are in a cute outfit when a proposal happens, so this was such a clever way to make sure I was prepared without risking me catching on.
Ilir woke up early Saturday morning and promised me he would not cut it close for our big day (for me, the photoshoot; for him, a proposal… little did I know). He got to my apartment early and I made us some breakfast and popped some bubbly. I was so nervous to be shooting with Alicia I told Ilir we needed a little mimosa before we went – ha!
We headed towards the location Alicia sent to me and Ilir played it pretty cool, considering we were heading to the spot he chose. (Later on, he told me he spent hours driving around Lincoln Park, my favorite Chicago neighborhood, trying to find the perfect location. So sweet!). He acted just as he normally does when we are trying to get somewhere – I can’t figure out a map to save my life and so he grabs the phone and leads us there. Ha – typical! He walked us over to what will be “our spot” for the rest of our lives, we found Alicia, and he introduced himself like he hadn’t been talking to her for the past four months…
The location was absolutely gorgeous. There was the Chicago skyline and the lake in the background and the beautiful flowering trees all around us. The weather was a perfect 75 degrees and sunny and it was absolutely amazing.
We started off doing some “warm up” pictures where Alicia had us walking and talking, holding hands and doing coupley things. Ilir told me later on, this was her strategy to find the picture spot with the best lighting for Ilir to ask the big question. Such a perfect plan! Next, Alicia asked us to stand back to back. It seemed a bit strange, but I fully trusted the master at work. I knew she knew what she was doing, so when she told us to close our eyes and hold hands, I didn’t even question her. I was standing there thinking about how silly it felt and how much confidence I had that it somehow was going to look great. When she told Ilir to take a couple steps forward, I didn’t think twice.
Then, she told me to turn around.
I glanced back and saw Ilir down on one knee and I can tell you so honestly, it really didn’t hit me. Not for a couple of seconds. If you watch the video down below, I think you can see the exact moment it really hits me. You know how sometimes when you are in complete shock, your mind takes you to illogical places for a second before you figure out what’s going on? I know this makes no sense whatsoever, but as I entered my moment of pure surprise, for a split second I thought maybe Alicia just needed some pretend engagement pictures. So I giggled a little but then looked into Ilir’s hands and saw the ring – and it was my ring. It was the exact ring I had told Ilir I wanted when he asked me to start thinking about what kind of ring I would want one day, but even better. Then, Ilir started talking. In all honesty, I really don’t know what he said, outside of “will you marry me?” (Later that night I asked him to repeat his proposal because I couldn’t process any of it in the moment – I was so overwhelmed with emotions I couldn’t even think! Of course, second time around, I gushed over it. Everything he said was perfect.)
Without a doubt I said yes! I’ve never been so surprised in my whole life, but also so certain in my answer. I’m not going to lie, Ilir can’t slide much past me. I am pretty good at reading people, and I’m even better at reading him. We had talked about our ‘ideal timeline’ for years, and this didn’t fall exactly into the grand plan, but life works in amazing ways, and it was so much more exciting to experience this moment in pure shock and happiness, than to know it was coming. And in all fairness, I gave him a lot of mixed messages. I didn’t want to get engaged too young. But I didn’t want to get married too old. I wanted to be married by my late twenties. But I also wanted a long engagement. I didn’t want to do an engagement from a distance. But I didn’t want to move and didn’t want him to sacrifice his job and move either. I’m glad he knows me better than I know myself sometimes, because I guess I really didn’t know what I wanted. He sure did.
I laugh looking back at the video and the pictures because while everything Ilir planned was perfect, my reaction leaned much more heavily on authentic awkwardness than perfection. I didn’t even hug him for a solid minute after he PROPOSED. I just stood there trying to wrap my mind around what just happened! HA! But I guess that’s what made the moment so much more real.
Alicia and her assistant Jess let us have our moment and then began laughing with us, saying “this was all for you!” There was no model call. The conversations leading up were all pretend. Ilir crafted the most perfect plan and I was TRULY surprised.
We started to shoot a few more pictures right after the big moment while shock was still running through me, and then it started to sink in bit by bit. I turned to Ilir, started crying, and my first question was, “did you talk to my parents?” When he told me he asked them a year ago, oh goodness, that hit me. I started asking so many more questions like “why now?” I am a type A person who follows timelines and makes plans, but Ilir’s response was simply filled with pure love and a strong passion to call me his fiancΓ©. (Another place where he balances me so well.)
I paused on all of the other questions that were running through my mind and just let the moment soak in. We spent another half hour or so shooting and I was on cloud nine. If you know me, you know I LOVE pictures. I want every moment of my life photographed. Most of the pictures I take I don’t even ever show anyone. I just love holding onto memories through pictures, whether it is a casual Sunday night dinner or a lazy Saturday laying in bed. More than anything, I wanted this special moment of my life captured so I could look back at it forever. Not only did he get me a photographer, he got me the photographer.
Our engagement pictures encompass all of the fairytale feelings that ran through me during this moment and I will cherish them forever. They are everything I could have hoped for and so much more.
Right after the pictures ended, I asked Ilir when my parents were coming or when we’d see them. He might have gotten me by surprise with the proposal but I KNEW our families would be involved in this moment sooner or later. He tried to throw me off saying he didn’t know when I would be seeing them next, so I pushed him a bit harder, and then he told me we had dinner reservations with them in a few hours. But first, we had some time just to ourselves.
After calling family and friends to tell them this exciting news, we headed over to our lunch reservations Ilir booked at one of the newest rooftop patios in the city, Noyanne, and had such a special lunch together, up in the sky of my favorite city, sitting in the sun with the 75 degree air breezing by us.
That evening, we joined our family to celebrate the biggest step we’ve ever taken together, and I could not have been happier to see our families as one and so blissfully happy together. To know my parents had known this day was coming for a whole year made my heart melt.
The day was perfect.
I am so overjoyed to have the most incredible fiancΓ© in the world who cares so deeply and lives so lovingly. I truly don’t know what I could have possibly done to deserve such an amazing person as my future husband and I will be thankful for him every single day.
So what’s next? We’ve gotten so many questions about when the wedding will be, if we are going to continue with our distance relationship (or now, engagement), and what our plans are. In all honestly, we don’t really know. I’ve always said I wanted a long engagement. I get to be a wife for the rest of my life, but I only get to be a fiancΓ© for so long. So, we are going to take it day by day over the next few months and start to decide things in a little bit. Right now, I am just overjoyed and filled with so much love knowing that after seven years and hundreds of miles in between us, we are engaged.
Watch Our Proposal Video:
Photography: Aesthetiica
Location: Park just south of North Avenue Beach in Lincoln Park
Outfit Details: Top | Skirt | Hat | Shoes (similar)
Beauty Details: Face Self Tanner | Body Self Tanner| Primer| Foundation (2N2)| Bronzer (original)| Blush (mocha pink) | Highlighter (peachy glow)| Eyeliner | Mascara | Eyeshadow | Brow Pencil | Brow Brush | Lip Gloss (Madeleine)| Setting Spray | Curling Iron | Heat Protectant | Hair Spray
Ring Details: To come…